• Valley_System

    May 14, 2023 at 9:06 pm
    Level 3: Toothed Tadpole

    We don’t have anyone in our system who identifies with our legal name. We started to go by my name a few years ago because I started socially transitioning, but since the system was discovered we haven’t really known what to do about a name(s). When I get called our legal name at first it takes me a second to realize they’re referring to me most likely because I’ve dissociated away from that name in some way, but once I realize they’re referring to me it makes me really uncomfortable being called that. I also don’t really like us collectively going by my name because it feels like everyone is grouping us all together as me, I also feel this way as the host with people who don’t know we are a system, but with everyone sharing my name it adds more layers to the issue. And I want to find a shared name for us for my head-mates sake, so that they don’t feel pressured to mask as me.

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