So who is the REAL one?

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There is no one original personality. Early on there was me, Little Jimmy, and Little Carol Ann. Jimmy is still Jimmy. Carol Ann, well, that’s a story it’s not time to tell.

Just because an alter is out more than others doesn’t make them more real. We’re more than just Saoirse, Janet and Sharon and no one is more REAL than another. We are all real. We all deserve our lives. We all deserve love. We each have our stories. There is no one alter who has time “stolen” from them, that is the true personality.

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

― Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit


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